Saturday, May 30, 2009
The True Mark of a Friend
You hear the thunder rumbling in the distance. Clouds are visibly accruing. The storm is definitely on the horizon. You're unsure what to do as this storm scares you so badly and shakes you clear down to the bone. The storm though is not of mother nature, it is of life. Your life is in an upheaval. Your emotions run rampant and you're not sure what to do. Then it hits you. All you have to do for that emotional support to shelter you from the storm is pick up the phone and call your best friend. Wait though, you can't. You can talk to them, but they are no longer here. No longer with us in this realm of existence. For a moment your heart breaks into and you think the storm will engulf you. It doesn't though because you hear those words of comfort and wisdom in your mind. You know that if your friend were here they would walk you through it and if they saw you trying to give up they would advise you against it. Who hasn't felt this way at one time or another? We all have people we've lost in our lives to death or to life circumstances. People we knew had our back. So what makes the true mark of a friend. A friend to me is someone I can be me with and not be judged. Flaws and all are excepted. They may point them out to me every once in a while but they accept me no less. A friend is someone you think of when you need someone to pick up your spirits. Someone you know will be there if you need them. A friend is someone you share in their pain and in their joy. As I sat and had dinner this evening with a good friend, he and I talked about this topic in it's own right. We talked about how we wish we had met someone who must have been that type of friend to a couple of mutual friends of ours. We never had the opportunity, but as I also heard another friend say, again about this same person, I hope some day when I am gone someone will think of me the way this person is thought of. If someone holds me in just a forth of that light I'll have been a good friend to at least someone. It also lead me to thinking about how we do things here in this life really does matter. We all leave our mark on other people whether we realize it or not. So this summer as we are living life to the fullest and as if it's our last, let us all also do our best to embrace the light of being a true great friend to those in our life. After all that really is the true mark of a friend now isn't it?