Why I'm here....

Since I've always been quick with an opinion an old friend once lost and again found suggested that perhaps I should share with more people my commentary. Never being one to pass on a challenge I thought I'd give it a whirl.

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Dating in The Real World Isn't a Movie...

I've dated my share of men in my life, or at least went on my share of dates.  I can tell you in the movies it looks a hell of a lot more fun than it is in real life.  I know a lot of people who talk about first dates and how exciting they are.  I always dread them.  It's not because I don't want to meet the person it's just that usually they have these preconceived notions about how I should or should not be or look and they often lie like there is no tomorrow about things that don't impress me at all.  I'm not your average girl.  I don't get impressed by flashy apartments and money.  I don't fall for just a pretty face and I sure as hell don't play games.  Do you know how many men I've met, text, talked with and gone on dates with that say they want a woman that doesn't play games?  That rarely is the case though.  I even had one guy tell me I was too accessible that I needed to be busy sometimes when he asked me out.  Call me crazy but if you're dating someone aren't you suppose to put them first?  I'm not making up plans to impress a guy.  I have a great social life I don't need to make anything up, I've just always believed when you're dating someone you put them first on the plans list.  I'm also no barbie doll.  I am a real live flesh and blood woman who will treat her man like a king.  I will wantonly fix him food, get him drinks, rub his back, be flirtatious, and see to everything I can to make him happy.  When I'm in a relationship that is what makes me happy.  My requirements to make me happy are very small.  I simply want someone to show me affection and to be honest with me.  Yes I've dated my share of good guys and I've dated my share of jack asses, but I've always treated them just a little better than I think for the most part a lot of them treated me.  Sound stuck up, yeah it does I suppose.  A lot of them left me feeling like I was good enough to use, good enough to have as a friend but not good enough to date or even take to dinner.  I guess I make one hell of a buddy you could say. So it's hard for me when I do find a good man to even consider it.  I'm use to being left on the sidelines while the hunt for the woman who will play the games, drive their guy crazy (not in a good way) and have their barbie doll bodies that they think will make them happy.  Most of these types of women will take the mans check and leave him cold.  Sorry but I've known my share of barbies and I only know a couple that bend in any form.  It's a rare and precious find when you find a barbie that likes to play fair.  So I'm not into games and dating these days is hard if you're one of the players out there on the field.  I'm always happy for my friends when they find a match that works.   Dating in the real world though isn't a movie and in my world if it were it wouldn't be romantic in the slightest...