Profound Statements Can Have a Profound Effect

Words can change your life.  This is why it was penned that words are sharper than swords.  People should be careful what and how they say things.  Small children for instance listen and try to absorb what they hear with all its meaning.  To tell a child it’s worthless is a hateful and heinous thing to do.  The child may take that into his or her very being and strive for very little in life.  (One should also take into consideration that children are listening at all times whether you think they are or not.)  Words said in anger to a spouse may throw the whole relationship into a stage where it cannot be repaired.  Very few people actually take the time to think about the way their words may affect someone else before speaking.  Our mouths and our voices are very powerful weapons upon which we require no permit to carry.   We do; however, require a responsibility to use them truthfully.  The profound way words have had an effect on my life have been on my mind a lot lately.  I think of the way I’ve changed through the years to a person who takes into consideration what a person may or may not be thinking, feeling or trying to convey before I react most of the time these days.  I used to would not have done that.  I would have lashed out if the words hurt.  A good friend, that I don’t see often enough, asked me one time why I was angry at someone I didn’t care about and that had no role in my life.  I remember letting those words he’d spoken sink in.  He followed it up with saying it was a waste of my emotions and time.   The more I pondered it the more I realized he was right.  I get upset at things people say and do, don’t get me wrong about that.  I just refuse to spend a lot of time or energy on it when in the long run it doesn’t matter.  I have a whole system I go through now in my mind.  I think to myself:  Did they mean it to be offensive?  Are they unaware or unintelligent enough for it to register it was hateful or wrong?  What is going on in their life at this point in time?  Are they really aiming those words at me, or are they just defensive?  Have I done something to offend them?  I also ask myself if I really care about this person or what they think?  Not only does it help me to look at what is going on in a different perspective, but it also allows me to cool off before I speak.  I mean by the time I’ve thought all that in my head I’m usually like who cares.  There are always exceptions to that.  I mean I am human and I am capable of being so tired I can’t stop it before I’ve said something stupid, but most of the time the method above keeps me from speaking out at someone in anger.  Now hurt someone I love and I will rip you a new one though.  It’s just the way It is.  Mean it or not if my nieces or nephew or my mom, dad, aunt, cousin, husband, etc. are crying or emotionally distraught over what you say I will be speaking with you and you will either be apologizing, out of my life or lying on the floor.  Words are weapons.  When you think of that it’s a wonder we don’t have to carry a permit to speak.  Now that I’ve said that I’m sure there is some politician or someone not so intelligent working on a way to do that right now.  Be careful what you say is all I’m telling you.  Remember the golden rule of do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  This also goes for Say unto others as you would have them say unto you.  I’ve had a lot of stupid things said to me lately.  One person in particular putting their two cents worth in on my wedding over and over.  Again I just look at it and say I don’t care.  I married the man of my dreams.  A man who treats me like a princess and whom I hope to spend the next 40 years or so with.  I’m happy.  My wedding no matter what did or did not go wrong was a happy and joyous day for me.  So to that person I will say nothing directly. I will merrily pray for them for peace and love in their life.  I will think of the things they do that make someone else in my life happy and remember they have very little to do with me in actuality.  So be careful what you say.  Be less about gossip and more about truth.  Be more about family and less about politics, money and position in life.  Give thanks to God and be what He wants you to be.  Give comfort to those that hurt and speak kind words when you can.  This is how we make America and the world great, after all profound statements can have a profound effect.